"I don’t like 2nd Lead Syndrome because it basically shaming the lead woman for making her choice…."
"2nd Lead Syndrome is an advocation of friendzoning and that is a misogynist idea."
That is bullshit. Complete and utter bullshit.
Let me tell you a thing:
There is this idea that our society pushes onto little girls that basically says when a boy LIKES you, he treats you like absolute shit.
He’ll push you, call you names, belittle you, make fun of you, etc.
So what happens is that girls grow up thinking that this disgusting and twisted idea of romance is completely legit, and so, many times, we see women that we love and care about actively engaging in *relationships* where the guy that they “happen” to like is a complete asshat.
And then we have media that chimes in on this idea….and as much as I love them, kdrama writers are ALWAYS using this cliche.
Don’t you understand? WE are TEACHING women that this is WHAT LOVE looks like…
….and then we assholes like this that make this “romanticization” actually a legit nightmare in reality:
If you can’t understand that this is an accurate portrayal of how misogyny is alive seeping through every nook and cranny of society, then there is no help for you. AT ALL.
If 2nd Lead Syndrome can teach us anything it is that, because of constant reinforcement from our mothers, fathers, and society in general, women are making choices detrimental to their physical, mental, and emotional well-being, to give people like Kim Hyun Joong a license to treat women however they please.
Note: I’m not arguing against the idea of friendzoning and a misogynistic idea that men push onto women. I’m arguing against the idea that we should NOT call out society on it’s bullshit for masking this AS friendzoning. It is not; it is a very different, and real problem that needs to be addressed.
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I’m so impressed by girls who can put together a really cute outfit and do their hair and makeup really nice every single day like if I manage to shower and eat breakfast it’s a damn victory